Being an adult male, you would think that I would have grown out of my insecurities of using the word “love”. I’m married, have kids and a family that I love very much. However, for some reason, I feel strange telling my in-laws that I love them and I don’t know why.
Every time I talk to my mother-in-law on the phone, she always ends the conversation by saying “I love you”. As quickly as possible, I try to skirt the response and then in a half-assed effort I respond with “love you too!” and hang up as quickly as possible. When my sister-in-law is over at the house, she’ll be walking out the door and she’ll announce her love for me as well…and I mumble something about loving her too or something like that. Whatever it is I’m saying, I doubt she can hear it because even I can’t understand what I’m saying.
What’s up with that? I mean, they ARE my family…right? I mean, I married into that family when my wife and I walked down the aisle…right? So what’s my hang up here? I can’t even begin to fathom what my issues are in this area. Maybe it’s a guy thing. Maybe I feel like in order to love someone you have to really know them and not just be a part of the family through matrimony. I don’t really feel close to my wife’s family. I see them often enough but not enough to warrant me saying the 3 deadly words without feeling uncomfortable. But if I talk to anyone in my family I always say “Love you” as soon as I’m hanging up or about to leave the building. Of course…they are MY family. So of course I love them!
Anyone else have these kinds of issues with the word “love”? I’ve never been one to throw that word around, but it seems like my wife and her family LOVE to use it…even when a majority of the time they don’t ACT like they love one another. What’s up with that?