Life is good
My friend Kim over at “The Vocabulary Of My Life” took a meme (seriously…what does “meme” mean? Anyone?) from “Twenty-Four At Heart” who took it from who knows who else. It’s called “100 Things I Want To Do Before I Bite It” (or something like that) and it’s a list of a bunch of stuff that someone has made up that they want to do before they die. Kind of a bucket list of sorts. But I want to argue something. And you can join in whenever you see fit. It’s a discussion that my wife and I have had before and I want opinions from others who might see this and wish to join in. Here’s my thought…
Dreams are overrated.
There. I said it. Come to think about it…I don’t even know what my dreams are or if I’ve ever had them. What did you want to be when you grew up? Don’t you have any dreams? Don’t you want your dreams to come true?
Hmmmm…nope. I don’t know if its because I don’t remember my dreams. I don’t know if it’s because I have never really had the foresight to be curious about what my future is. I DO know this…I don’t usually know what I want to do until the opportunity presents itself.
For example…on Kim’s list, there were things such as “write a song”, or “observe a surgery” or “take a train trip across the country”. Ya know…(shrug shoulders)…I don’t know. Can I tell you…I just don’t know!?! I mean, it all sounds great and all, but I don’t aspire to do a lot of these things. I imagine if the opportunity ever comes up and I’m struck by this sudden urge to write a song or a book (which I’m considering) or if I’m in a hospital and they allow me to hang out in the op room or if I’ve got a few weeks to blow off and I’m at the train station…I guess ALL of these things could happen. I mean, I’m open to just about anything! But do I “dream” of these things? Nah…
Does this make me odd? Does it make me seem strange? Is it unusual that I have no dreams? I can say that I have already gone to places I never ever thought I would see. I’m already living a life I never thought I would have. I already know so many great people that I never thought I would know. And to dream of more…well…it seems kind of selfish.
I guess if I were to dream, I would dream that I will get to see my kids graduate from high school and college. I would dream that I get to meet my grandkids and get to see them have wonderful lives. I would dream that I will someday see our country return to the greatness that it once was. I don’t know if these are dreams that I dream about at night…but I hope they are. Because these are the things that I really want.
I don’t have to see a taping of “The Daily Show” to feel satisfied. I don’t have to make my own wine or travel to Thailand or go white water rafting (oh wait…done that!) or meet Anthony Bourdain (who is that? No idea…gonna Google it once I’m done here…) or really do much of anything else that this list has on it.
So everyone else can have their dreams. I’m all good! I am (to some degree) living my dream. I have a wonderful wife, a nice home, a good job, 2 awesome kids, a great dog, I got a couple of computers and a bunch of CDs and DVDs. I have decent health and a car in my driveway. It’s all I could have ever dreamed of…and it’s wonderful.
So you go ahead and dream. I’m gonna keep on living. And if the opportunities present themselves…then I’m gonna take the opportunities and make the most of them! But I never seem to remember my dreams when I wake up…
And I kinda like it that way.
P.S. Anthony Bourdain is a chef on The Travel Channel. Who knew?